I’m going to go ahead and get a little personal here. The first time I met my brother in law, it was in my kitchen where we were both staring at a can of tomato sauce that had a bit of green in it. We were pretty grossed out when a little green thing came out of the can and fell on my hand. The look on his face was priceless. I was so embarrassed for him.
There is a very good chance that both of my kids have gay dads. My youngest had one at one point in her life, but then her step-dad died, and her step-mother didn’t want her to have him. I don’t know if any of my children are gay, but I’m sure that having a gay sibling is one of the worst things that can happen to a kid.
Having a gay sibling is a very, very rare thing in today’s world. I can’t recall the first time I came out to a gay sibling, but I can guarantee you that it won’t be the last time.
To be honest, I dont have a good personal experience with gay siblings. I remember when my youngest was a baby, I tried to tell her about my dad, but she was too young and had a different way of looking at things. I also remember when I was 12 or so and I finally came out to my sister and my mom, the most shocking thing was that I didnt come out to my brother as gay.
That’s not to say there aren’t gay babies out there, but they are few and far between. There’s just nothing that can be said for the vast majority of the gay community.
Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people are pretty much all on the same spectrum of self-awareness. And although it can be challenging for anyone to come out to parents or siblings, it’s even harder when it’s a parent. There are many reasons why someone might not come out to him or herself, including fear of rejection and/or the general embarrassment of someone’s sexual orientation.
I think the most common reason why people don’t come out to themselves is the fear of rejection. Other than that, people just don’t come out.
But in many cases, people have a “good reason” for not wanting to come out, and others might not want to come out simply because they fear their parents will find out about their sexuality. It is rare that you will come out to yourself if you have a “good reason.” Even the least comfortable people have a “good reason” for not coming out.
It may be a little easier to come out to yourself if you are gay rather than heterosexual. I remember telling my mom when I was in college that I was bi, and she said “No way”. I just thought she was joking. Now that I am older I realize she was not joking.